In my previous blog, I said that it is the primary role of fathers to instruct their children in spiritual matters. I will now outline the impact fathers have when they follow the Bible’s pattern for godly fathers. To help you remember, I have simply called the pattern “one responsibility”, “Two “T’s” and “3G”.
1. One Responsibility
Like Abraham, all fathers have one responsibility and that is “to direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just.” (Genesis 18:19). All fathers are responsible for the spiritual instruction and growth of their household. They should never abdicate this primary responsibility as it is God’s pattern for parenting.
2. Two “T’s”
(a) Tell Stories
We now turn to Psalm 78:1-7 to learn the two “T’s” that fathers can do to bring up their children in the fear of the Lord. The first ‘T’ stands for ‘Tell’. In verses 3-4, the psalmist said, “What we have heard and known, what our fathers have told us, we will not hide from their children; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, His power, and the wonders He has done. In other words, the psalmist advised us to tell stories to our children of what God has done for the family. Every family has stories of the signs, wonders and miracles of God. Each child born is a miracle and fathers should always be ready to tell their children how God had helped the family.
(b) Teach God’s Word
The second ‘T’ stands for teach. The psalmist advised in verse 5 that God “decreed statutes….. which He commanded our forefathers to teach their children.” Fathers have the role of teaching God’s word to their children. It doesn’t have to be a classroom setting. The Bible says that when a father is walking with his child, he can merely share a Biblical truth that applies to a situation the child is facing.
For example, the child is about to face an examination. The father can share Proverbs 3:5which reminds the child to trust in the Lord with all his heart when taking the exams. Such truths shared in an informal setting is impactful as it meets the child’s need.
3. ‘3G’ Effect
When a father recognises his one responsibility for the spiritual growth of his child and does the two “T’s” of telling stories and teaching God’s word, he will have a “3G’ effect on his family and descendants. The psalmist says in verses 6-7 that the next generation would know God’s truths, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children. Then they would put their trust in God and would not forget His deeds but would keep His commands.
This ‘3G’ effect means that the father’s words will impact 3 generations – his children, his grandchildren and their children. Never underestimate the ‘3G’ effect of a godly father’s words. We serve a faithful God who will ensure that our faithfulness to Him will be passed on to generations to come (Deuteronomy 7:9).